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Most mums who yell at their kids end up hating themselves for it. They promised they'd never do it. They read the gentle parenting books. They counted to 10, took the deep breath, tried every script in the book. And then their toddler hits the 4th meltdown of the day, and all of it just disappears, and the yelling comes out anyway. After that comes the guilt. The "I'm a terrible mother" spiral. The promise to do better tomorrow. I'm Melissa Hiemann, trauma therapist and co-founder of The Centre for Healing, and I want to tell you what's actually going on here. The yelling isn't a parenting failure. It's a nervous system response, and it was wired in long before the kids ever arrived. So when you're triggered, you can't really script your way out of it. Your body just runs the program it learned back in childhood, and no amount of theory or technique rewires that on its own. Which is why the books never seem to stick when it actually matters. So I put together a free training with my colleague Tara Russell, a parenting coach and mum, and we walk you through why this happens and what you can actually do about it. It goes underneath gentle parenting, into the part that makes gentle parenting actually work in the first place. So if you're tired of yelling, sick of the guilt spiral, and ready to understand what's actually driving your reactions, click the button below to watch the free training now.