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My mum’s bowel ruptured on a Sunday afternoon. They found out at the hospital that it had been eaten through by something that had lived in her gut for over a decade, and the surgeon told me that whatever it was had almost certainly come from me. I am Sarah, I am 42, and I live in Bristol with my husband Rob and our two children, Lily who is nine and Jack who is twelve. I am writing this because I nearly killed my own mother with a parasite I did not know I had, and I need you to understand how easily this happens to anyone. It took an emergency surgery and a surgeon’s quiet question in a corridor at 3am before anyone put it together, and by then the damage was already done. Mum is 68 now. For twenty years she ran a playgroup out of the church hall, looked after her own mother through dementia, still does her own garden. The sort of pensioner who makes you feel lazy. Then two years ago she started to get ill. Not a sudden sick, just a slow dimming that we all found an excuse for. She would come round for Sunday lunch and only manage half her plate. She said her appetite was off, it was nothing. She started wearing looser blouses and elasticated waists, always saying nothing fitted at the waist these days. I noticed she had gone hollow round the cheeks but her middle was swelling, like she was carrying something in there. At Lily’s birthday party last summer she sat on a chair by the wall the whole time. She said her knees were bothering her, but it was her stomach, I can see that now. Then the tiredness. She would fall asleep in my armchair at four in the afternoon. A woman who used to walk three miles every morning started asking me to park closer to the shops so she would not have to cross the car park. I told myself she was getting older. That is what you do, you blame age. Then the fog. She would forget why she walked into a room. She rang me once from the car park at Lidl because she could not remember which car was hers. That was the first time I properly panicked, but still she would not go to the GP. She did not want to be a bother. I made an appointment for her eventually and went with her. The GP was young, barely out of training, and she did a blood test. Results came back “within normal limits.” She told my mum, “Your bloods are fine. It is probably your thyroid, we will keep an eye on it. Try to eat smaller meals and drink peppermint tea for the stomach.” I asked about the bloating. The GP said, “That sounds like IBS. If it persists, come back.” That was the first dismissal. A month later we were back because Mum could barely eat without pain. A different GP this time, an older man. He pressed her stomach, made her do a urine test, then said, “You are sixty-eight, love. The gut slows down at your age. I can give you omeprazole for the acid.” He wrote a prescription and that was that. No questions about parasites, no stool test, nothing. The omeprazole did absolutely nothing. Another twenty-two pounds wasted. By then she was getting worse. Her stomach was tight as a drum by teatime. She could not bend to put her own shoes on. She started cancelling on the grandchildren, which she had never done. One Tuesday she was supposed to pick Lily up from Brownies and she forgot, completely forgot, and Lily stood on the pavement outside the church hall for forty minutes until I got there. I was angry, properly angry, and I shouted down the phone. She cried and kept saying she was sorry, her brain was not working. She said she felt like she was losing her mind. I still did not think it was medical, not really. I thought she was depressed or developing something with her memory. I am ashamed to tell you that now. Fed up, I booked a private gastroenterologist. Two hundred pounds for a twenty-minute consultation. He listened to her symptoms, nodded, and said, “Classic IBS with advanced dyspepsia. I would put you on a low FODMAP diet and we will review in three months.” No scans, no parasite test. We left with a printed sheet of what not to eat. I spent eighty pounds on FODMAP cookbooks and probiotics and digestive enzymes. Nothing changed. She just got kinder to food she could not digest. Three months later we went back to the same private consultant. He said she had lost weight, which was “good progress,” but he ignored the fact that her stomach was visibly distended and she had not slept more than two hours straight in weeks. He offered a colonoscopy but said the waiting list was six months unless we paid another grand privately. I nearly took him up on it. I wish I had, but I hesitated. I kept thinking about what else I could do with that money, and I will never forgive myself for that pause. The Sunday it happened I had cooked a roast. Mum ate a small bit, said her stomach felt heavy, then went to lie down on the settee. About an hour later she sat up, looked at me with a face I will never forget, and said, “Something is wrong, love.” Then she collapsed on the floor with her hands across her middle, moaning like I have never heard a person moan. She was white, grey-white, and her stomach had gone rigid to the touch. We rang 999. The paramedics took one look and their faces changed. They went quiet the way they do when they know it is serious. They had her in the back of the ambulance with a line in before I could grab my keys. I followed in my car with Rob, the kids left with the neighbour. At A&E they did a scan and within the hour she was in surgery. A nurse came and told me her bowel had perforated and she was very poorly, they were trying to repair it. I sat in that relatives room on a plastic chair with a silent telly and I kept going over every time I had told her it was her age, or stress, or she should just eat more slowly. I thought about the peppermint tea the first GP recommended. Peppermint tea. For a woman whose bowel had been eaten through from the inside. The surgeon came out around half three. He sat down across from me and he looked exhausted. He said they found a rupture in her large bowel, and the cause was a long-standing parasitic infection that had been burrowing into the intestinal wall for years. He said there were “multiple organisms visible” and they had already sent samples to the lab. They had to remove a section and clean out the infection. Then he asked a question that changed everything. “Has anyone else in your family had stomach problems, bloating, anything like that?” He said these things are often picked up through close household contact, and if the infection had been in her for over a decade, the most likely source was someone she had lived with or shared a kitchen with for a long time. He did not say it outright, but he did not have to. I just stared at him. My mouth opened but nothing came out. Because my own stomach had been off for as long as I could remember. I was always the one who needed to know where the nearest loo was. I had just thought it was normal for me. I told him I had bloated on and off since my early thirties, probably from before the children were born. He did not say anything, just nodded and wrote it down. That silence was the loudest thing I have ever heard. Whatever had nearly killed my mother had almost certainly come from me. I had been carrying it inside me for at least ten years, probably longer, and I had given it to her without ever knowing. It might have been on my hands, in my cooking, in a shared bathroom. I will carry that guilt for the rest of my life. I went home that night and sat in my kitchen and went through seventeen years of my own body’s quiet complaints. The bloating after dinner I had blamed on bread and pasta and my period and everything else. The soreness in my lower stomach that felt like a fist. The energy dips so bad I would nearly fall asleep at the wheel of the school run. The sugar cravings I hid, eating biscuits in the pantry where no one could see. The brain fog that made me lose my train of thought in work meetings. The 3am waking with a racing heart for no reason. The way my hair was thinner in the plughole. I had been slowly getting worse for years and I had never once thought to connect it all together. I had just thought I was a tired, doughy, foggy person. Then I thought about my children. If I had been carrying this parasite for that long, what had I passed to them? I sat there in the dark at 4am, staring at the stairs that led up to their bedrooms, and I genuinely thought I might have poisoned them. I felt like the worst mother alive. I rang my sister Em at six in the morning. She came over and we started researching. Not one symptom at a time like the doctors, but all of it together. And the thing that kept coming up again and again was intestinal parasites. How common they are in the UK, even in clean middle-class homes. How they are missed by standard stool tests because they hide behind a biofilm, a slime shield that keeps them safe and makes them invisible. The World Health Organisation estimates one in three adults in the developed world carries one. You catch them from undercooked meat, unwashed salad, pets, public toilets, swimming pools. They attach to the gut wall and steal iron and B12 before the body can absorb them, and that is why you are exhausted even after a full night’s sleep. They release toxins that reach the brain, causing fog and low mood and that 3am jolt. They inflame the gut lining, causing the bloating that gets labelled IBS. And if they are left there for years, they can literally eat through the bowel wall. I read that and had to stop. Because that was exactly what had just happened to my mum, and it had been inside me for over a decade. The tests were never going to find it because nobody was looking at the whole picture, least of all with the right tests. The two compounds that kept coming up in the research were carvacrol from oregano oil and thymoquinone from black seed oil. Carvacrol ruptures the parasites and dissolves the biofilm shield. Thymoquinone stops them reproducing and helps the body flush them out. These are not new, they are not experimental. They have been used in Mediterranean medicine for thousands of years. But British doctors never mention them. There is no money in it. There is money in IBS prescriptions, antacids, repeat appointments, and surgery. I ordered oregano oil from a health shop online, the first bottle I saw. It cost twelve pounds. I took it every morning for two weeks and nothing happened. Then I read the label. Eighteen percent carvacrol. The research says you need at least eighty percent to break through the biofilm. Below that, the parasites are completely safe. I had bought expensive olive oil. That is the weak oregano trap, and I fell straight into it. Please do not do the same. Em spent hours online and found Herbies Oregano+. She sent me the link with about forty exclamation marks but I will just tell you what matters. Eighty percent carvacrol from wild Mediterranean oregano. That is higher than most clinical studies use. Cold pressed black seed oil standardised for thymoquinone, in the same softgel. Third party lab tested. Nitrogen sealed so it stays potent. No fillers, no oily burps. Two softgels every morning, that is the whole of it. I ordered two bags that night. One for me, one for Mum when she was strong enough after the surgery. I started mine immediately because I could not live with the idea that the same creature was still inside me, still putting my family at risk. Day one and day two I stayed near the bathroom. I will not describe what I saw in an advert, but it was proof. In those two days, my body pushed out what had been living in my gut for over ten years. I sat on the bathroom floor and I cried with relief. It was never in my head. It was never stress or IBS or my age. It had been real and physical and no doctor had ever looked for it. By day seven my own bloating had started to go down. For the first time in years my stomach was flat at ten o’clock at night. By day ten I slept the whole night, eight hours solid, and woke up without an alarm for the first time since my twenties. I had not been properly awake in a decade. By the end of the month my energy was back, my brain was clear, and the sugar cravings had vanished. The snapping at my family stopped. I was present again. I had to buy new jeans because my old ones were suddenly too big. That was the only problem. Mum started on Herbies about six weeks after her surgery, once the surgeon said it was safe. She had a colostomy bag for a while, which was hard, but she was determined. By three months after starting the oregano protocol, she was better than she had been in five years. No more bloating. Her energy came back, slowly at first, then all at once. She started walking to the shops again, doing her garden, picking Lily up from Brownies and never forgetting. Last month she cooked Sunday lunch for all of us, the first time in almost two years. I stood in her kitchen watching her mash potatoes and she turned round and said, “I feel like me again. I didn’t realise how long it had been.” I cried into a tea towel and hoped Jack did not come in. Now, here is what I need you to know. This is not only for people who have seen a parent nearly die. Most of the reviews on Herbies are from ordinary people who just had the everyday version: bloating that nothing shifts, tiredness coffee cannot fix, brain fog, constipation, the 3am waking. They took it and the misery quietly lifted within a few weeks. You do not have to reach the point of a ruptured bowel before it is worth looking. If your stomach has been off for as long as you can remember and nobody has ever looked at it properly, that is enough. I am not paid to write this. I do not work for Herbies and I get nothing if you buy it. I am a forty-two-year-old teaching assistant from Bristol who nearly killed her own mother with a parasite she did not know she had. That will never be okay with me. But if telling you can stop it happening to one other family, then at least something came out of it. Herbies Oregano+ is eighty percent carvacrol from wild Mediterranean oregano, with cold pressed black seed oil, third party lab tested, nitrogen sealed, no fillers. Two softgels every morning. Before you buy any oregano oil, do not make my mistake. Most of what is sold in this country is fifteen to fifty percent carvacrol and cannot break through the biofilm. You will just waste your money. There is a thirty-day money back guarantee. If you feel no different, you get your money back, so you lose nothing but a fortnight. They are a small company and they sell out regularly. I am sorry if it is gone when you click. But if it is showing below, it is in stock right now. Please get it. Sarah P.S. I still have a photo on my phone of Mum’s hand holding mine in the hospital the morning after the surgery, with the cannula and the ID band. I look at it whenever I need reminding that what feels like “just a bit of bloating” can be something living inside you, multiplying, for years, waiting to do real damage. If your stomach has been off for as long as you can remember and nobody has ever looked at it properly, please do not wait until someone is dialling 999 on a Sunday afternoon before you find out why.