Soul Shepherding Facebook ad: “Probably most of us struggle with people pleasing.”

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Probably most of us struggle with people pleasing. When healthy, people pleasers are considerate, compassionate, kind, adaptable, helpful, spiritually sensitive, and devoted to God. But when unhealthy, people pleasers lose themselves, match other people’s moods, get taken advantage of, fall into patterns of rescuing people, take on burdens they’re not meant to carry, and unwittingly enable other people to be irresponsible. At it’s root, people pleasing is a coping mechanism to manage feeling insecure in relationships. But in the end it doesn’t really work. We can’t have healthy, secure relationships without a healthy sense of self and personal boundaries. The good news is: we can learn to get free from our patterns of people pleasing! It starts with strengthening our personal boundaries and identity. To have good boundaries means you can say no to what is not good and yes to what is good. It’s important to have the words and confidence to say no if you feel pressured by someone, have a different opinion, or are tempted to do something unwise or unloving. Developing the courage to say no is like building a muscle. It takes practice. But you can’t do it alone — boundaries are relational. The power to say no or assert your true self in good ways comes from saying yes to participating in a loving relationship. In other words, healthy boundaries are really about healthy self-identity. The most important thing to do to moderate your people pleasing is to develop relationships of mutual empathy. On the receiving side you need to be known for your true self, with your insecurities and short-comings, and experience the grace of being loved. At the same time meditate and pray about your identity in Christ. Read the promise of the Bible and apply them to yourself as a student of Jesus. Then when someone listens to you, rubs your shoulders, lends a helping hand, or prays blessings on you smile and say thank you to the person — and to God who is loving you through that person. As you do these things you’ll begin to rely on God’s Word to nourish and build up your personal identity, security and confidence (rather than relying on pleasing people) ❤️

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