Dr. Patricia Sullivan Facebook ad: “Your bladder lied to you every single hour”

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I've taught 2nd grade for 30 years, and my own bladder going from nothing to emergency in 12 seconds is one of those things nobody talks about in a school. Not in the staff lounge. Not at faculty meetings. Not even with the teacher you've shared a wall with for 19 years. You just deal with it. The frantic walk to the staff bathroom while the aide watches your class. The water you stop drinking at eleven in the morning because you know, you absolutely know, that somewhere around the two o'clock bell your bladder is going to go off whether there is anything in it or not. The dark trousers you started wearing specifically so it wouldn't show on the days it won. The way you stopped laughing at the things seven-year-olds say, because a real laugh, the kind that comes from your belly, set it off. Every single time. I've stood at the front of that room for thirty years teaching children to raise their hand when their body tells them something. Meanwhile I'm standing there with my legs crossed behind the desk, counting the minutes to the bell, and my body has been lying to me for two years. Because here is the part I have never said out loud. My bladder is completely silent through an entire fifty-minute math block. The second that bell rings, it's an emergency. Before I've even stood up. And when I get there, there is barely anything. About a year ago, it crossed a line. It was testing week. If you have never been in a school for state testing, here is the one thing you need to know. The teacher in the room is the proctor. Under testing rules the proctor does not leave, and nobody comes in to relieve her, for the whole session. Ninety minutes. Twenty-four seven-year-olds, a silent room, and me. I went to the bathroom at 8:50. I made sure of it. The test started at 9:00. At 9:20 my bladder told me it was an emergency. I knew there was nothing in there. I had gone thirty minutes earlier. I had not had a drink since the night before. It did not matter. It was the same alarm as always, the one that goes from nothing to everything in about twelve seconds, and I was standing at the front of a room I could not leave. I sat down at my desk. I crossed my legs. I read the same instruction page eleven times. I watched the clock the way I have watched a hundred clocks, except this time there was no bell coming to save me. Around 9:40 it let go. Not much. That is the part I still cannot get over. After seventy minutes of my body screaming at me that it was full, it was hardly anything at all. I sat in it for the rest of the session, and then I stood up, tied my cardigan around my waist, and walked twenty-four children down the hall to lunch like nothing had happened. Then I went out to my car in the staff lot, and I sat there, and I cried. I was 56 years old. I had two children, both delivered the old-fashioned way. I had done thirty years of bus duty in the cold. I was not a delicate woman. But I had just lost control, in front of a room of children, over a bladder that had nothing in it. That night I told my husband. First time I had ever said any of it out loud. "It went off, Mark. During the test. There was nothing in there and it went off anyway and I couldn't leave." He was quiet for a long time. Then he said, "What does your doctor say?" My doctor. Right. I had already been down that road, and I want to tell you about it, because I suspect some of you are on it right now. First I did what everyone does. I cut the coffee, which in a school is a real sacrifice. I cut wine. I cut anything with bubbles. I stopped drinking anything after eleven in the morning so I could get through the afternoon. I still went every hour. Every single hour. That should have told me something, and it didn't. Then I tried to hold it. Bladder training, they call it. Five more minutes. Then ten. I tell seven-year-olds to wait until the lesson is over, and I tried to take my own advice, and the alarm won every time. Not sometimes. Every time. Then Kegels. A hundred a day, for the better part of a year, because a pamphlet told me to. I found out much later that a lot of women my age are not weak down there. They are too tight, and the Kegels make it worse. Nobody checked which one I was. Then pelvic floor therapy. Two hundred and fifty dollars a visit, fifty minutes away, and every appointment was during school hours. I went four times. Then I stopped, because I had used up my personal days on a treatment that hadn't touched the bell. The first doctor I saw listened to about a minute of it and said the four words every woman my age has heard. "It's just part of aging." Then she asked if I'd thought about my weight. I went out to my car and I sat there very still, because a professional had just confirmed what I already believed. That this was somehow my fault. Then the urgent care visits. Three of them. Because half the time it burned like an infection, so I gave the sample and I waited. Negative. Negative. Negative. They gave me antibiotics anyway. The burning eased for a week and came straight back. Then oxybutynin. The bladder pill. The second doctor said it would calm the spasms. What she didn't say was that my mouth would get so dry I couldn't read aloud to my class without a water bottle at my elbow. Or that I would lose my place in the middle of a lesson I had taught for thirty years. Or that I would stand in front of a mother at pick-up and go completely blank on her son's name. A child I had taught since the first day of the year. My principal came by after an observation and asked if everything was alright at home. I stopped the pill that night. At the next appointment the doctor laid out what came after the pill. Botox injections into the bladder wall, repeated every few months. Or a nerve stimulator implanted in my lower back. She said it the way you'd suggest a different brand of shampoo. I smiled and said I'd think about it. But I knew I wasn't doing it. Because I had watched my mother do this. She took the bladder pills for fifteen years. Then she stopped going on the trips. Then she stopped going to church. Now she doesn't leave the house much at all, and she has never once said why, and I am the only one who knows. I was looking at my own next 15 years. The one thing that had helped at all was the vaginal estrogen cream, which I had to ask for twice and then explain my humiliating problem out loud to a stranger to get. I want to be honest about it, because I know some of you are on it. It helped. The burning got better. The phantom infections mostly stopped. The bell did not change. Not at all. So I kept the cream, and I kept the dark trousers, and I kept a full change of clothes in my bottom desk drawer under the construction paper, and I kept a bag in my tote for the days it won. Every morning I walked into a building where my whole job is teaching children to trust what their bodies tell them, while hiding a body that had been lying to me for two years. Then about seven months ago, something happened. Conference night. Twelve families, fifteen minutes each, back to back, at a table built for seven-year-olds. I had stepped out between the fourth and fifth slots and come back to find a father looking at the clock. The seventh slot was a grandmother. Bev. She is raising her grandson Tyler on her own, early sixties, the kind of woman who comes to conferences with a notebook. We talked about Tyler's reading. Then she stopped and looked at me. "You keep looking at the door, honey." I started to say something about the schedule. "I used to do that," she said. I put my pen down. "Used to?" She smiled. "Two years. Every hour on the hour, and up all night, and I'd get there and there was nothing to show for it. My doctor wanted to put a wire in my back." "What happened?" "Something a girl at church told me about. I thought it was nonsense. It's a pumpkin seed pill, of all things." She laughed at my face. "I know. I looked at her exactly like that. But I drove forty minutes to get here tonight and I did not think about a bathroom once." She wrote a name on the back of the sign-in sheet and pushed it across the little table. Bloom & Bond. I looked it up in the parking lot before I started the car. Pumpkin seed oil and saw palmetto. I actually laughed. That's the hair pill. My sister takes that for her hair. And saw palmetto is what Mark's father takes for his prostate. I do not have one of those. But I could not stop thinking about Bev, who had driven forty minutes and not thought about a bathroom once. That night, with my trousers in the wash again, I sat down at the kitchen table and read properly. And this is the part I need to explain to you, because once I understood it I could not go back to not understanding it. There are two separate things wrong with a bladder like mine, and I had only ever been treated for one of them. The first one is the tissue. Your bladder, the tube out of it, and everything holding it up is built from tissue that runs on estrogen. When the estrogen leaves in menopause, that tissue gets thin, dry and irritated. That is the burning. That is the infection that keeps testing negative. That is the layer the cream works on, and it is the reason the cream helped. The second one is the alarm, and nobody had ever mentioned it to me. That thin, irritated tissue is packed with nerves. When the tissue is raw, those nerves sit on a hair trigger. So instead of telling you the bladder is full, they start firing on a cue. A sound. Standing up. Cold. A door. And the bladder muscle hears the alarm and squeezes, when there is hardly anything in it to squeeze out. The urge is not a full bladder. It is a false alarm. I read that line and I put my phone face down on the kitchen table and stared at the wall for a full minute. Because somebody had just explained the bell. It explained why I could cut every drink I owned and still go every hour. There was never much in there to cut. It explained why I got there and found barely anything. There was barely anything. It explained why the tests came back negative. Raw tissue and a nerve firing at nothing feels exactly like an infection. There just isn't one. It explained why the pill worked a little and cost me my memory. It was aimed at the right muscle, and it was hitting that same switch everywhere else in my body too. And it explained why the cream, which really did help, never touched the bell. The cream rebuilds the tissue. It does not quiet the nerve sitting on it. Every single thing I had tried for two years was aimed at the tissue, or at the gate, or at what was in the bladder. Not one of them was aimed at the alarm. Here is how Bloom & Bond splits the two. The saw palmetto is for the alarm. This is not the prostate story. In the female bladder, the fatty acids in a proper saw palmetto extract help quiet the receptor that tells the bladder muscle to squeeze, and help settle the nerve that keeps firing the false go-now signal. No hormones involved. There is a twelve-week, placebo-controlled study in women over fifty where the women taking it had fewer daytime bathroom trips, and the ones who were also leaking saw the night waking come down too. The pumpkin seed oil is for the tissue. It is rich in the fatty acids and vitamin E that soothe irritated urinary tissue, its magnesium helps the bladder muscle relax instead of clenching, and its plant lignans give estrogen-starved tissue a gentle, plant-based nudge toward the support it lost. It is not a hormone. It goes nowhere near my cream. And there is a trial in women, on urgency and frequency and night waking, behind it. One calms the alarm. One supports the wire the alarm sits on. And that is when I went and found the old drugstore bottle in the back of the cupboard. I had tried pumpkin seed oil for my bladder a year earlier. Two months. Nothing. I read the label properly this time. Pumpkin seed. On its own. Heat processed, which is cheaper and degrades exactly the fat-soluble compounds you are paying for. Nothing at all for the alarm. I had not been wrong about the ingredient. I had been sold half of it. The saw palmetto on a shelf is worse. Most of it is ground-up berry powder, or a men's prostate product with a new label. The study was done on a tested extract, and that is a different thing. Bloom & Bond is cold-pressed pumpkin seed oil and a tested saw palmetto extract in the same softgel. Two in the morning with my coffee. Nothing to remember at eleven at night. Nothing to explain to anyone. Testing week was just under two months away. Same room. Same rule. Same ninety minutes. I decided that if I walked out of that room the way I walked out last time, I was making the Botox appointment. I did not see another door. I ordered it. I kept everything else exactly the same. Same cream, same nothing after eleven, same aide, same construction paper. ✅ The first two weeks, nothing. I want to say that plainly, because I nearly stopped. ✅ Somewhere in the third week, the bell rang at the end of math and I noticed that I stood up before my bladder did. I had my hand on the door before the alarm went off. I stood in the hallway and thought, that is the first time in two years it has been late. ✅ Week five, I counted. Four asks in a day instead of eleven. The aide noticed before I did. And two wake-ups instead of four, which after two years of counting to four, you notice the way you'd notice a missing tooth. ✅ Week six, I filled the paint cups myself. I stood at that sink with the tap running and waited for it. It didn't come. Two days later I sneezed on bus duty, in the cold, and nothing happened. I stood on the curb like an idiot while the buses pulled out. ✅ Week eight was testing week. I went at 8:50. The test started at 9:00. I sat at my desk and I waited for 9:20. 9:20 came and went. So did 10:00. So did 10:30, when I stood up and walked twenty-four children to lunch, and only when I sat down in my car afterward did I realise I had not thought about it once for ninety minutes. I sat in that car, in that same spot in the staff lot, and I cried again. Different tears. ✅ Around the third month, a boy in my class announced to the room that his dog was "allergic to Mondays," and I laughed. All the way through. Without the brace, without the half-second calculation. Nothing happened. At my next appointment I told my doctor what I'd been taking. She read the label. She pulled the study up on her screen. Then she closed the laptop and said, "Let's take the Botox off the table. Whatever you're doing, keep doing it." I called Mark from the parking lot. "She said no Botox." Quiet. Then, "Thank God, Lori." That was three months ago. Last month I put my name down for the museum trip. Two hours on a school bus each way, forty children, no bathroom. I had said I had a doctor's appointment that day two years running. This year I sat in the front seat and did not do the maths once. And my hair. I have to mention it because I wasn't looking for it. Around month three, my hairdresser asked what I was doing differently, because the part I'd been widening for years was filling in. I hadn't noticed. She was right. Now let me tell you what this is not, because I have been sold enough. It did not make me twenty. I still know where every bathroom is on the route to my daughter's. Old habits. It is not a drug and it is not a cure, and I am not telling you a capsule did all of this on its own. I am still on my cream and I am not coming off it, and you should not come off yours without talking to someone. This sat alongside what I was already doing. That is the whole point. It took weeks, not days, and your body may not run to my timetable. What it is, is two plant ingredients in one softgel, taken once a day, that support the tissue and help quiet the alarm. The half that nothing else I tried had ever been aimed at. No prescription. No appointment. Nobody to look in the face and explain anything to. That last one mattered more than I expected. I think some of you reading this are exactly where I was. You know which windows in your day you are allowed to drink in. You've stopped laughing properly. You've cut the coffee and the wine and it did not fix it. You did the Kegels nobody checked you needed. You might be on the cream already and quietly devastated that it was not enough. You've had the test come back negative and been sent home feeling like a liar. And somewhere in the last year you decided this is just what you are now. I decided that too. I was wrong. I want you to picture a bell that rings and you finish your sentence first. I want you to picture ninety minutes in one piece. A night from bedtime to morning without the hallway. Turning the tap on yourself. Getting on the bus. I did not think I was getting any of that back. Here is where I got mine: https://trybloomandbond.com/pages/menopause-bladder They do a money-back guarantee, which is the only reason I ordered it at all after the drugstore bottle. If it does nothing for you, you send it back and you are out nothing but time. Give it more than two weeks. That is my whole piece of advice. Lori. Second grade, thirty years. P.S. If you already tried pumpkin seed oil for your bladder and it barely did anything, read the two-layer part again. You were not wrong about the ingredient. It was working alone, on the tissue, and nothing was aimed at the alarm. That was the single thing I got wrong for two years. P.P.S. You do not have to give up your estrogen to try this. I didn't. Nobody should ask you to. It goes alongside it. P.P.P.S. If you've been told you can't have estrogen at all, for your own reasons or your family's, this is not a hormone and it does not behave like one. I am not your doctor and you should ask yours. But there is a door here that is not the one everyone keeps pointing you at. P.P.P.P.S. The bell. I did not put it in this letter to be clever. For two years it was the clearest proof I had that something had got into a part of my life I could not control, and I had never told a soul, and now it is late. I hope yours is late too. 👉 https://trybloomandbond.com/pages/menopause-bladder

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